They were so cute and innocuous at the beginning. When I first started traveling, I collected little knick-knacks from all around the world – miniature Greek vases, blown-glass penguins, and way too many little plates with Fox Glacier, the New York City skyline, or Dutch windmills etched and painted and stamped all over them. I was even on an animal kick for a few years; I bought a felt camel in Abu Dhabi, a carved wood llama from Peru, a leather giraffe in Tanzania, and a wooly sheep figure from Patagonia. My shelves and other furniture were soon housing a menagerie, and I felt like I was living in a trinket shop.
I’m not a clutter fan; I like my rooms (mostly) spare and my surfaces (mostly) bare. When I got tired of all the little tchotchkes, I cleared many of them away (into boxes … mistake!) and began buying fewer, but bigger and nicer, things: a rug, a wall-mounted kudu head made out of paper, an Alpine cowbell, a chief’s basket, larger pieces of art and, my favorite, a Buddha head from Tibet. I carefully selected only one thing on each trip, and it either had a function or added some artistic value to my home, reminding me every day of some of the fascinating places I’d been.
But if there is ever a time to reassess one’s acquisitiveness, it is before and after a whole residence has to be stuffed into boxes. The prayer wheel made the cut (good karma), but the Delft dishes did not. The Mongolian yak rope is just too cool to ditch, but the Ghanaian coasters had to go. Some of the bigger things are making my new house feel like home, but I remain overwhelmed by the smaller stuff emerging from boxes, some packed months or even years ago. I wince every time I encounter another little “gift” of packing paper wrapped around some small, unknown object.
When we prepared to leave Chicago, we rented a dumpster and pitched pound after pound of household junk inside, and we took anything clean, attractive, or usable to Goodwill. So how did I arrive here in Houston with more boxes of paperweights and tapestries, jeweled trays and woven hats that I hadn’t seen in years? I start the assessments again: OK, the boomerang can stay, but where am I supposed to put this leather drum and that teak bowl? Let’s just say I’ve already found a donation spot here, and they know my face and car well after two weeks in town.
Whether you’re a traveler or not, or a shopper or not, may I suggest you start cleaning your house or apartment out now? It’s really not a fun job, and it’s even less amusing when you’re under the gun and/or your significant other has trouble parting with things (see: Maasai spear). Luckily, in recent years, all I have really wanted to take home with me from my travels are memories and experiences. In many ways, this blog is now my travel memento, a repository for recollections, feelings, and affection for the places I’ve been. Best of all, it will not ever need to be put into or taken out of a box. I don’t ever want to see another box.
You and me both!! I know we talked about the shocking amount of stuff you find when moving but it is so difficult to let go of the travel souvenirs. Blogs are a great memory! I love reading through my old posts to remember the little things that I’ve forgotten about.
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It is hard to let go of some of the things, but honestly, if I saw another dumb little plate or dish, I was going to fling it like a frisbee! My husband is more sentimental about things than I am, so this has been a great negotiation. I agree about blogs (and journals and photos, too) – great reminders of happy times.
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Hehehe, we have replaced the “souvenirs” with photo albums. Mostly 😉 That’s what happens when you have to change house every 3 years. We mostly bring back little souvenirs now for our families.
Except for India. I have a dozen beautiful pashminas .. still in their bags as we ve been living in hot and humid South East Asia since then! And I bought many furnitures, whose cheap price has been largely compensated by the insane fees I ve been paying to keep them in a depot for the last .. hmmm… 7 years!
Hopefully they ll finally travel with us in our next posting (we finally know! on the blog in a few hours) …
Happy moving dear, you are finally home 🙂
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I’m going to have to stay up late and find out where you are going … ahhhh, the suspense! Yes, photos and journals are also part of my trip memorabilia, and I do think moving can keep the clutter down better than anything. I laughed at your furniture in storage story; you probably have paid more in fees than you did for the pieces! But they will be fun to have in the future if and when you stop moving so often.
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Not only I ve paid at least 10 times more, but I don’t even know if the moment we ll open the boxes, all we ll find will be .. mountains of dust 😛
( I know .. I know …)
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I’ve been on a get-rid-of-it kick for several years—ever since travelling for a year out of a backpack. I’m making headway.
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We’ve had moments of purging, but it now seems like the tip of the iceberg! I am pretty relentless and heartless – my husband less so. Still, we too seem to be making headway!
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I love the stuff that you did keep! I too am an ‘anti-packrat’ but was surprised by how much clutter I had collected in my ‘minimalist’ life in New York. I used Francine Jay’s book ‘The Joy of Less, A Minimalist Living Guide’ when I set out for Yachtmaster school in England. As a result, because I tend to live at the extremes, I ended up giving the predominance of my stuff away with just a few small boxes of mementos remaining in a friends basement. Haven’t seen those since 2011 :-). Like you, my blog/photography/memories are now my travel memento as there is little room on the boat for much more. Still, I’d love to have a wall to hang that kudu head of yours 😍
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Oh, I do love that kudu head! A man in Cape Town made him, and I held my breath as he was shipped home! I’d love to go even lighter on the stuff, but I guess it is a process. Obviously, I need to move onto a boat!
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When I moved overseas 18 years ago, I went through a huge purge. Even though I gave up acquiring superfluous things years before even on voyages. The nomadic life has no room for knick knacks. 😀 If I buy souvenirs, it’s food, wine, or clothing, or my one weakness is jewelry with stones found in those regions. I couldn’t resist buying some propaganda books in North Korea, however, but they don’t take up much space. I bet the Goodwill people are infinitely delighted with your donations.
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Jewelry is another good one because at least you use it! I think moving (or being nomadic, ideally) is a great cure for clutter. We do keep downsizing, which is great, but certain people are not as good about pitching stuff as I am …
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Ughhh…i need to do this! Ive actually got better with this recently; i used to (no idea why) collect fans from everywhere i went and even that got messy real quick.. the souvenirs youve pictured are lovely though!
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I’ve had the collecting themes, too! Not fans, but pitchers and then the animals … it all seems annoying and cumbersome now, but I guess it was fun while it lasted!
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Love the way you start this post haha. “They were so cute and innocous at the beginning”. Yup, over the years all the stuff starts to accumulate and that is why one just has to move… an opportunity to sort get rid of stuff. When we moved to Nicaragua with just our suitcases and four months later our container arrived, we wondered what we possibly might have in there aside from our piano and couch. We certainly felt happier without all the “stuff”.
That said, the kudu head out of paper is pretty impressive! And the prayer wheel and buddha head are no doubt wonderful daily reminders of your travels.
It is very true too, that witing a blog is like having an endless closet for memories and photos of moments!
Congrats on your move.
Peta
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As you said, when the container (or moving van) arrives, one wonders what more could possibly be in there?! I felt overwhelmed and even slightly angry at some of the stuff that arrived here. I had worked so hard to get things pared down, and there was still SO MUCH stuff – junk to my eyes at this point.
That incredible paper kudu head was made by a man in your home country! I saw similar ones in the home I was staying in in Cape Town, and the owners introduced me to the artist and he made me one and shipped it to Chicago. I love it!
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I used to buy fridge magnets whenever I traveled, because they’re cheap and they can fit in my backpack or camera bag easily. But then as I travel more, I realize there will be a point when I will be overwhelmed by those “cute and innocuous” things. Now I only collect photos, thousands from every single place I went to. The only thing I will probably need to keep buying is external hard drive, but only after a good number of years, not every now and then, and I guess that’s rather more justifiable than collecting trinkets.
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Oh yes, we have had our share of fridge magnets, too! I thought those were long gone, but I even found a few in the boxes when I unpacked. For a while, I bought patches that I sewed onto my backpack, but even those things multiplied like little bunnies! Photos and written reminiscences are the best, I’ve come to believe, and thanks for the reminder that I need to get a new external hard drive! 🙂
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This post made me nervous, remembering my last couple of moves. My eyes are now nervously scanning bookshelves and counters to see if anything has multiplied while I was sleeping. And speaking of books…
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Oh … BOOKS?! Those are still in their 30-40 boxes, waiting for a bookshelf! I am capable of throwing away dozens of vases and figurines, but books are a whole ‘nother story! I did actually thin my shelves by about a third, but I’m not yet able to toss all the books. And now I feel nervous, thinking about the next move …
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Are you dreaming about boxes yet, Lexie? 🙂 I certainly know the feeling. The only items I ever bought and “collected” in the past are souvenirs from all my travels. And, I liked all those masks on the walls and statues on my dresser… when I had walls and counters. Now, and for the last 14 years (!), all those souvenirs have been packed away in newspaper and tubs on my parents’ attic. I don’t even remember what I have and where it all came from. Opening all those “presents” will bring back memories. But, without a home, I can’t keep storing them forever. Who knows, next time I look at them – for the first time in over a decade – some of it might be broken or moldy. It will be easier to get rid of the items that way. 🙂
In recent years, we only buy small and useful items when abroad, or nothing. I have given up “hope” to ever settle and display my collection. Memories, blogs and photos… that is the way to go. Also, I just realized that I could take photos of the items I want to get rid of, but are great mementos; some kind of compromise…
Liesbet @ Roaming About – A Life Less Ordinary
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Haha – yes, boxes are spinning in my head, but they are more like nightmares at this point! You will actually have fun finding all those treasures again someday in your parents’ attic. I enjoyed finding many things in mine, but unlike my husband, I was happy to view them in person one last time, and then they made their way to either the trash or the thrift shop. I did take photos of some fun old notes, or my kids’ trophies, etc., but I don’t need to review them all again in their full form in another 10-20 years! I just don’t want to drag things around any more.
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I mostly collect pictures, and usually a T-Shirt per country so it doesn’t add up too fast. But we could stand to downsize a bit on other stuff…
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Useful things like clothing or even jewelry are better bets, but I could never resist some awesome decorative items! Now that I have less space to decorate and a smaller appetite for packing and unpacking stuff, I have learned to collect mainly photos, stories, and memories. And yeah, the “other stuff” will surprise you in its ultimate quantity some day! UGH
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I know exactly what you mean Lex. When we sold our place I was completely overwhelmed by the mountains of stuff I had to find new homes for. And I’m the furthest thing from a hoarder. Now we never buy anything except gifts. Like you the blog is is our “souvenir”.
Alison
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That’s what blew me away, too, Alison! I am not a hoarder or a clutter-maker, and I thought I’d kept things fairly minimal for years. But when it all has to go, the truth comes out! You must feel light and free nowadays! I still have some, but the pile has been well edited.
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sometimes though a clean out leads to amazing discoveries you’d forgotten were there, but it can be heartbreaking too…
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You are right on both counts, Andy! It’s tough, but it can be fun!
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Once upon a time, Lex, everything I owned could fit on my bicycle. Another time, all I owned could fit in the back of my truck. Those days are gone, sigh. We’ve stop collecting when we travel, for the most part. The truth is, photos and stories make the best memories. They too can clutter, but they also fit on a thumb-drive! I laughed my way through your blog with all kinds of empathy. –Curt
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Thanks for the commiseration, Curt, but I bet you’ve been much better than we have at either cleaning out or not over-collecting stuff in the first place!
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Ah, but I am married to the lovely Peggy, who does have a penchant for collecting, Lexi! And then there is my love of books… Each room seems to be a mini-library. Gradually, we are downsizing. –Curt
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Ahh, yes, there is always the significant other (my husband is the collector) and the books – another whole story!
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I think we are soul mates, I was a collector before I started traveling, now I just HAVE to have that knick-knack from everywhere. But I am working to clear up my house so that someday I am truly nomadic and only have photos to remember my trips by.
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One plus for me is that even as I collected things, my natural tendency for order and neatness has kept things from spiraling out of control! The problem is that “order” for a while meant getting things off surfaces and into boxes, so when I dealt with all those boxes years later …. OUCH!
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I SOOOO agree with you Lex. We sold our home of 16 years last year and had to be in a rental for 6 months before purchasing our current home. I got rid of TONS of stuff, much of which I had sentimental attachment to (sigh) in the first move and was stunned at how much I STILL had to lose in the second move. But now I feel SO clutter-free it’s fantastic! And guess what? I haven’t missed a single thing!
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You seem to be one step ahead of us, Tina! We left our long-time home for a year to live in DC, but we didn’t fully clean out at that time since we kept the house. Now the major work is done, but I still need that Round 2, which I want to do right now as we unpack. Husband is not so sure …! Like you, I bet I will not miss any “stuff.” The memories will always be there, and I crave that lightness of being that comes with no clutter at all.
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I know the feeling. Well, sorta. In the last 3 years I had to clear my grandmother’s and mother’s possessions, arrange three house moves and I’ve had to clear another apartment we are trying to put up on rent. Whilst I’m not the kind of person to go and buy big souvenirs whilst en route (even though the Buddha head… mmmh), I’ve since long embraced the mantra “if it ain’t fitting in your pocket, don’t take it”. And a non-magnetic fridge door!
However, I’ve got a cabin crew partner and that means that she brings a lot of stuff home…
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Cleaning out other people’s stuff is both easier and harder, I think. Easier to separate from it, but so much more tedious – we are dealing with that right now with my mother-in-law’s house. You’ve certainly had a lot of this work lately – yikes – and if you stick with your current partner, I don’t envy you the future clean-outs! 🙂
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Ah, those cleanups are easy! It all stays onboard (you clearly can ses who’s boss in our household)!
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An oddity of my situation is that I’m the end of the line, family-wise. With no siblings, no children — in fact, with only a 90+ year old aunt and three cousins, there isn’t that network of family members to pass things on to. So, many of the things that I cherish aren’t going anywhere but the trash when I’m gone. This is both slightly distressing and somehow freeing, but it does make the process of dispersal interesting. I keep getting rid of things on a regular basis, but I still look around and think, “Where did all this come from?”
One thing that’s really helped is keeping “tokens.” Instead of a dozen Liberian masks, just two. Instead of a huge bag of trade beads, one necklace. And so on. I’ve found that evoking the memories is what’s most important, and only a few items are needed to do that.
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It will be no consolation necessarily, but let me tell you that even if we have offspring, these millennials do not want our stuff! It’s not just our minimalist kids; in fact, I’ve been reading multiple articles about this generation and its disdain for the kinds of things we have collected – not just travel mementos but china, silver, things like chafing dishes (ha – what’s that?!), and good furniture. In a way, I admire it, and I’ve changed my own consumption and decorating habits to align more with this philosophy of living mostly with things you use each day. Your idea of keeping tokens is another excellent solution and one I will be employing here in my smaller Texas abode!
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And of course another part of the solution is to get rid of the good china/everyday china dichotomy. When my mother discovered me using her “good china” during the week, she nearly had a heart attack. When she found my putting it in the dishwasher — well, you can imagine. She informed me that the dishwasher would remove the gold trim. I agreed, but pointed out it wouldn’t happen in my lifetime, so on we go! I will handwash fine crystal, but I use it, and if a piece breaks (or six, but who’s counting?) I let it go, and consider the act good practice for larger letting-goes that will come.
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I’m with you on this one also! Why just stash this stuff away, and – bonus! – silver actually gets nicer with regular use!
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These are the best pieces for our homes, the carefully selected ones. Thanks for sharing.
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Thanks! I agree (now), but I sure was not careful enough early on!
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I loved reading this post, Lex. I’m quite fond of collecting souvenirs from different places we’ve visited. I also collect rocks from the seashore or pinecones on a hike or autumn leaves. 🙂 After a while there a lot many memories and it’s so hard to give any away. So, I’ve started gifting anything I might not want to keep just after a trip. It makes sense and avoids the trouble of giving anything away after I’ve got too attached to it. 🙂
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Well, that’s a good idea! I dislike shopping in general, so unless something grabs me, I am really bad at thinking about gifts; this might be a way to kill two birds with one stone!
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I can’t bear to throw out my collectibles but it’s time. Hubby and daughter are off to visit relatives in Adelaide tomorrow and I’m staying behind and doing a huge spring clean. Travel stuff to go. Old kids toys to go too. My daughter will hate me on her return but this house needs a big cleanup!
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Getting the husband and kids out of the way before starting the spring cleaning is key! I keep trying to pitch a bunch of little knick-knacks from our new house, and my husband keeps finding my piles that are ready to be donated and “rescues” things, which end up cluttering things up again!
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Yes I can’t do anything with my daughter around…. Although putting all the blame on her is a bit wrong because my husband isn’t much better!
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Hahaaaa!! We also have a pair of glass blown penguins. From Murano Island in Italy…but I will say it’s one of the few physical souvenirs we have from all our travels. Maybe it comes from already having moved apartments a few times (and hubby countries 4x), that we just don’t like having STUFF and pretty much despise shopping. We vowed long ago, no trinkets from our travels, and just pictures for memories. It’s worked well for us so far… though now unexpectedly our house is just so full of baby stuff she’s already outgrown it’s giving me a headache. 😉
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I bet the Murano penguins are beautiful! Mine is from the Antarctic Center in New Zealand, so I’m hanging on to him since I’m unlikely to be back there! Moving is a great cure for collecting, I am convinced, so being in one house for the last 21 years was not a good thing. A few years ago, loooong after my babies were grown, I finally sold or threw away piles of baby stuff that I was supposedly keeping for grandchildren, but believe it or not, I dragged some really good old blocks and a few other much-loved toys here to TX with us. Future grandchildren had better appreciate this stuff!
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Lex, well it’s good advice to start cleaning house now. Evidently, I have to move in September into another apartment here. And if I leave in January, then move again then. I’m going to hate boxes myself. I already do. And shipping stuff?? I have two stone plant stands from Bali that I can’t even lift. I thought they’d be cool in my place, and they are. But now what do I do with them?
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The stone plant stands are a tough one! Even though it’ll be expensive and a pain in the neck, that’s the kind of stuff I’d have to keep. It’s all the little junk I like to edit and purge every so often. What a hassle for you to have to move twice; maybe you should have a few boxes that get packed in September and not unpacked until after you move in January?! I assume that will be a long-haul move … I’ll be curious to hear what you are up to after that!
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Lex…I think you’re right. I might even try to find a furnished place for the last semester here. Just pack stuff up, put it in storage, maybe cull the junk there. And I’m also curious to discover just what I’ll be up to “after that”?! Will it be to Bali, or Hawaii, or Houston?? I have no plans…other than to never grade another freshman composition essay…ever.
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I think I may have graded my last freshman comp essay in December! So far I have made no effort to find a position for August/September, and no great grammar correction urges have come upon me …
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