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Are we nuts? I scowled at my husband, as we boarded the plane and crammed ourselves and three little kids into the economy seats of a plane bound for London. We had put our farther-flung travels on hold for the toddler years, but now it was time to load everybody up and start seeing the world through fresh young eyes.
We soon found we had nothing to fear. From takeoff that summer day, we discovered our kids were born to travel. They entertained themselves or slept the entire flight, they stayed up all the next day until bedtime, and they believed me when I said there was no such thing as jet lag, spending all of day two on their feet, in the tube, in the parks and museums and churches and shops, and they topped it off with a night at the theater. They were 5, 8 and 10 years old; I have to say I was pretty impressed.
We stayed with friends in London and started some great travel memories, the kind of recollections kids have of their trips, not necessarily the kind adults and travel bloggers write about. They remember minding the gap as we rode back and forth into the city, gawking at the torture devices in the Tower of London, snuggling a new Paddington Bear toy, and the sheer magnitude of choices at the food court at Harrods. They remember the crushing crowds at the theater, but not much about the play. They recall it being scorching hot outside Big Ben and Parliament, but nothing about the places themselves.
Paris was next, via the Eurostar train through the chunnel, a ride that is still remembered for the orange juice that was spilled on my daughter’s white sweater rather than for the transportation wonder that it was. Strongest memory of the Eiffel Tower? The awful pizza – who puts weird mushrooms on pizza, they cried! (Who eats in the Eiffel Tower, we should have been asking.) Continental toilets were the subject of many a journal entry; my oldest was intrigued with the different flushing mechanisms, the water flow, the seats – you name it; he cataloged it.
Notre Dame is remembered for its roof and the winding stairs that got them there; back then you could go the whole way up, and we spent well over an hour looking out over the rooftops, but no one has any memory of going inside. Parisian cuisine? They ordered steak frites or jambon et fromage sandwiches at every single restaurant for every single meal (except for that sad Eiffel Tower pizza). We rented a spacious apartment decades before AirBnb, and they remember … the lobby.
The French countryside brought new delights. What kid would not love Mont St Michel and the idea that we could be stranded there when the tide came in? Forget the abbey; that natural moat was the cool part. Dinard was a charming beach town, but here they had the coziest, whitest beds, all three crammed together in a toile-covered room, and that Grand Hotel may still be their favorite hotel in the world. Monet’s garden delighted my daughter, perhaps in part for its flowers and green benches, but mostly because she remembered she had gotten out of a day of preschool to attend the Monet exhibit at the Art Institute of Chicago with me years before. And, to them, the D-Day beaches represented the end of a different kind of World War: a huge fight between mom and dad over asking for directions! (To be honest, that hours-long argument and the driving in circles all over Normandy are my strongest memories of that historic place as well.)
Belgium brought panic and a three-way police lookout when we sailed through a toll area without paying the toll (by accident) and the kids were certain we would be arrested, but it also brought one of the most relaxing afternoons we had, meandering though Bruges, eating chocolates and posing on every little stone bridge we crossed.
Our final destination, the Netherlands, where my brother was living with his family, is somewhat properly remembered for our visit to Anne Frank’s house, an evening canal cruise, and the pannenkoeken houses, but what they would say really sticks in their minds is the stone their cousin threw at our youngest’s head in their backyard. Or the porn movie that came on as my brother tried to change the TV channel. Or the girls in the windows in the red light district, which they struggled to comprehend. Or the topless beach near Scheveningen.
Ahem, there is a theme developing there, but it was a different kind of lust that was growing in the kids on that first big trip. Today, those little tykes have a wanderlust that matches their mother’s, and I think all those mundane memories of other countries were the spark. All three kids spent some portion of their college lives overseas, continued to travel with us for many years, have worked overseas in Israel, Ireland, South Africa, Ghana and Malawi, and now take their own road and train and bus trips, wrangling their friends and significant others to step away from home to create more silly, random memories.
Those photos are adorable. You certainly got lucky with them being such well behaved travelers. I see so many people hauling along toddlers and even infants on European trips. It seems more logical to wait just a few years, as you did, so they can at least have some memory of it. Your kids are probably so thankful to have a Mom like you who taught them the joys of wandering.
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Thanks – they were pretty cute little kids but, even better, they were game for adventure and (largely) well behaved! The youngest did go through a phase of not wanting to travel so far or so often, so one summer we left him at camp and went without him! (He was unfazed.) Dragging babies around exhausted me even at home, so I was happy enough to wait until everyone could walk and use the bathroom on his/her own. I also wanted them to be old enough to form reactions and write in journals, and now we all love looking back through their thoughts about things (like the toilets – ha).
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Lovely images. Looks like you guys had fun!
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Thanks! It was a great first overseas trip for all of us – different enough to be interesting but similar enough to not overwhelm.
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Lovely. Thanks for sharing.
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Great post. Bruges is gorgeous. Our kids were born to travel too, which must explain why one of them is living in France and another is moving to Vietnam in July!
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Once it’s in their blood, it’s hard to shake! (Luckily)
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Lexi this is a masterpiece! You should submit it to a travel magazine or paper. Love this story! This is how I got my wanderlust and I am working on instilling the same passion in my children as well. Lovely!
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Oh, you are too nice! I did have fun thinking back on that first big trip with them. We still have the journals and if I could have found them amid all the still-not-unpacked moving boxes, I may have come up with a few more goofy reminiscences! I just loved hearing what struck them and even now, we laugh at some of the memories they have.
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I shared this post with my husband. I just loved it so much. 😌
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Thanks again for your very kind comments, Nicole! Glad you liked it!
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Sometimes I wonder what life would have been like if I’d had kids. I’m sure they’d have caught the travel bug, the world is too interesting a place if you learn to look past your backyard, but beyond that who knows?
This was a lovely piece, really well written.
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Thank you, Dave. I had fun thinking back to that trip and all the silly things we still talk about. It’s never been about the big tourist sights and scenes, and that made traveling with them a different kind of adventure.
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What a sweet glimpse into your life. How wonderful it must have been to travel with your kids at that age. It must have given you a whole new perspective. I’m not surprised to hear they grew up to be travellers.
Alison
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Thanks, Alison! It was almost all fun … of course, there were times when herding three young children around crowded cities and trying to keep everyone amused and happy got a little exhausting! The great thing is that it slowed us down and made us see that just being there was enough to start to absorb a new culture.
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Most excellent! This is what I’m trying to achieve with miss 5. I can’t wait for all our future travel adventure, it’s just so great to see her eyes light up at something new. Beautifully written piece Lex X
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Thanks! You have done a great job of getting out and around the world with your daughter. It gets even more fun as they get older. I think my favorite trips were when they were teenagers, believe it or not!
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Well with the attitude miss 5 currently has I don’t know if she’ll be lasting to her teeneage years! Lol
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Hahaha!
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Lovely trip down memory lane for you, Lex. That is so many places visited on that big trip with them, and sounds like it was very well planned. All of the kids look so happy in the photos, and the photos look so good after all these years – the world looks like their playground.
You don’t like mushrooms on pizza? Or was it just the locals? I love mushrooms and love them on pizza. Could eat an entire pizza of mushrooms on top. Hope the porn on TV didn’t catch any of the kids’ attention. Then again, with traveling, they probably think it is just another thing to discover…
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Yes, it was, Mabel – I had loads of fun remembering some of these fun little incidents. I do like mushrooms on pizza and now they all probably do, too. However, when you are a little kid and you expect a cheesy (and just cheesy) slab of pizza, and it arrives all covered with exotic French mushrooms, there is bound to be a food-related meltdown! We all laughed, even then, but it has never been forgotten!
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Seeing the world through your children’s eyes is the absolute best!!!!
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Isn’t it? We thought we were keen and observant travelers, but the kids noticed things that we didn’t, and those were usually the very basics of life and the exact things it’s fun to compare with our own life and culture.
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Travelling with them is one of the very best things you can do. I think anyway. Good on ya!
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I have missed your entries!! I will try to catch up of what you have been up to recently! You have a way of writing that is so entertaining.
I love when we make random memories during our holidays. I remember getting my finger stuck in the door of the car when I was going in France when I was 4 years old. I I remember the colour of the towels and that they were soft but cannot remember the beach at all!! haha !
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Oh, you are so nice! I miss seeing you on here more often these days, but I know you are busy with your business and other stuff. I’ve actually been pretty quiet here myself in the midst of so many life changes.
I love your random travel memories, especially the stuck finger! Those are exactly the kinds of things we had fun reminiscing about with the kids.
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I have found traveling with my brood of five that the fights and tears disappear much more quickly from memory than the wonderful experiences and quirky happenings. Good thing amnesia sets in as I would never plan another trip after some of those moments!
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We’ve certainly had those moments as well! Interestingly, we have squabbled more as the kids have become adults – maybe because now they have their own ideas about we should do rather than our simply dragging them wherever and whenever we wanted!
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your kids look like they had a lot of fun! even though they might not remember everything, i’m sure they learned a lot. traveling is a teacher in itself.
one day, i hope to take my kid traveling as well to open her mind up to the different cultures of the world. australia’s pretty much multi-cultural as it is but as a parent who grew up in the philippines, i want to expose her to the realities of the third world countries to ground her. also because the beaches there are way more awesome! =)
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All great reasons to travel with kids! Yours is still so new, but I’m sure you will have her out and about in no time.
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i hope so. at the moment, we’re both still trying to adjust with each other when we go out — me wanting the peace and quiet of aimless walks; and her wanting to get out of her stroller so she can explore the world!
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Your recap made me roar. From Padfington Bear to fascination with plumbing to everything In The Netherlands 😂. Reminded me of journeys with my parents (and the occasional D-Days that crop up when negotiating directions with The Captain).
What a gift you gave your adorable children, opening their minds and setting them up for a lifetime of adventure. I think you should ask them to guest blog about their travels someday 🐛🐛🐛🦋🦋🦋
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Men and directions – an age-old and apparently universal conflict! My daughter did do that nice Ghana post for me, but you are right – I should get my boys to write something for me, too!
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Apparently, I missed K’s wonderful post as I was distracted with our transition from life in Indonesia to Singapore/Malaysia at the time. I am so glad to have found it now. What an amazing kid. Gave me hope for the future 🤗
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She is a dear person, and her journal about her time there both cracked me up and impressed me with the seriousness of her public health project. After Ghana, she settled somewhat permanently in Washington, DC (right as I left 😦 ), but she is now traveling to Malawi on her new project. Maybe I can twist her arm for a Malawian post!
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Yes Please!
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My best half used to travel around Europe with her mum, dad, brother and sister, all five bundled in a used VW van that *wasn’t* set up like a caravan. They all had great memories and absolutely loved it, including when, aged 13, 12 and 10, they broke down on the French motorway and had to call the services using their French.
My family, instead, always went to the same place 2 hours’ away from home and it was always a mess. Stressful, shouty, anything but a pleasant experience.
What do I make of all this? That kids surely can have the ‘travel bug’, but what’s more important is the parents. If they’re like you guys then I’m sure that almost any kid will be a great traveler.
PS – Scorching hot in Britain?!
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I wish I could take all that credit for producing great travelers, but I think 50% of it is their fairly pleasant personalities. Don’t think we have not had some stressful, shouty times of our own, though – as I mentioned in another comment, we have squabbled more as the kids have become adults; now they have their own ideas! I liked them small and malleable – haha!
And yes! Scorching, blazingly hot in London that summer (maybe July or August); we were wilting!
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Fabulous post, Lex. Your kids are so lucky to have had this instilled in them.
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Thanks, Angeline. Our family travels are some of our very best memories!
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Lovely post! Definitely the best kind of memories – and travel – and wanderlust is from doing everyday things with your loved ones while traveling and creating memories, and laughing at the small stuff. ❤
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Thanks, and I agree that it’s the everyday stuff that eventually stays with you. The famous sights are fun, but family memories were made doing the basics.
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That is so fantastic that you exposed your children to these adventures! And, it is wonderful that it instilled a wanderlust for decades to come. I remember the “mind the gap” recordings from London as well, from visiting many years ago. I have always wanted to go to Mont St. Michel and still have not made it there. I was shocked to recently find out that there is a bridge to the mainland now. No getting stuck there anymore at high tide! Glad to read that you made it to Belgium. And, I love pannenkoeken! They are my favorite treat in Belgium, together with the pastries from my parents’ bakery.
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You must be a pastry connoisseur! What we loved about the pannenkoeken was that they could be sweet or savory, and we definitely ate many of both! It’s been the joy of our lifetime to travel with our kids. Even if they had gotten nothing out if it, we would have created fantastic memories; the fact that they valued it and made it part of their own lives is even more gratifying.
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This brought back so many memories of traveling with my three kids when they were little. Amsterdam, Copenhagen, Israel, South Africa, Mexico. The things that fascinate them, and that they remember, are mind boggling. Haha. Two of mine love traveling today and the third is more like my ex, prefers being at home! It was not east, but then again as you say, being at hone is challenging too, so may as well get them on the road and exposed to different cultures early.
Cutest pics Lex. Adorable. We need one last photo of the grown up versions!! 🙂
Peta
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Thanks, Peta! I have to say our youngest had some travel burnout after a while and wanted to stay close to home, too. Suddenly, though, his interest was reignited and he planned and took a great Eastern Europe odyssey with some friends a few summers ago. We always found that all of us were more pleasant when traveling! At home, the daily annoyances could make us cranky, but overseas or on the road, we just seemed to be able to laugh at our foibles more!
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P.S. Here are a couple of more recent pics!
https://lexklein.wordpress.com/2015/12/19/ten-feet-out-the-door/
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Wonderful memories Lex. And what greater gifts could you give to your children than the love of travel. –Curt
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Well, I guess I could give them the money to travel! Ha – now that they have the bug, they are always scrimping and saving for trips … which is a good thing all around!
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All the beaches are topless in NL. It’s the custom. Shocker right?
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Not a shocker to me, but it sure was to the kids!
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What a precious post Lex. And delightful photos. Great that you passed on your wanderlust to them in good measure. Our daughter and son in law tag their boys along wherever they go, even in freezing weather or blistering heat. I almost envy their early exposure 🙂
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Thanks, Madhu! It was so fun to think back on that early trip and all the cute things they said and did. I can’t wait to relive some of that fun with grandkids someday! Have you ever traveled with yours? (Or are you waiting until they are older and fully civilized?!)
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Beautiful post. ❤ Three years in a row I hopped with my parents and sister to London, Paris and Prague and these three trips form a sort of travel backbone. I was over 20 though. 🙂
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Travel with family is a great way to bond. Travel without kids can be a little more relaxing though! 🙂
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It would be interesting to see your three children more grown up and traveling to Greece some years ago; your rental car crammed fully with the five of you and your parents, all straining to find room to sit midst the luggage!
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Ahhh, but you just needed to explore the blog a little more! Here ya go!
https://lexklein.wordpress.com/2014/12/31/vasta-revisited-or-back-to-the-beginning-at-the-end-of-the-year/
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This post is so hilarious to me!! It’s funny what kids remember. We didn’t take many family trips outside of the nightmare road trips across country. I only remember the motel pools, my dads smoking and the endless torture from my siblings. I could tell you what happened when I got to the destination! Glad you planted the seed for your kids – I love it!!!
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I have to say I laugh every time I read it, too! Now, to be clear, this was the travel life of my lucky kids; I on the other hand, like you, had road trips from PA to FL or to the Atlantic beaches … and YES, the motel pools were a huge memory (Howard Johnson’s and more), and YES, my mother smoked non-stop (although she did crack the window 1/4 inch, and YES, we four kids fought like cats and dogs (unrestrained of course) in the station wagon with sleeping bags all over the tailgate and the suitcases on the roof! But you know, I still re-created that whole scene with my kids, too, schlepping them in a crowded car from Chicago to PA to DE to NYC and more. Ahh, such great memories – both as a kid and as a parent!
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I can totally picture the scene in your family car! haha! I had a friend who drove with his four, very high-maintenance sisters from TX to Colorado to go skiing. They put all their bags on top of the car and drove straight through the night. When they got to Aspen, ALL of the bags had flown off the top of the car!!! Skis, clothes, makeup, everything. I’m sure they talk about that story at every Christmas dinner. haha.
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Oh, god – that’s a bad one! I think the worst we had was a bra flapping out of a suitcase!
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Haha!!!
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